Is it true that only a father can make a boy a man? That's what our culture has taught us—from myths to movies, Sigmund Freud to Robert Bly. In this timely, provocative title—a milestone in the continuing debate on gender—family therapist Olga Silverstein challenges the misguided belief that boys must achieve, girls must relate, and mothers must let go of their sons and defer to traditional male role models in order to raise good, strong me. Drawing on case histories from her clinical practice and her own life, she explains how we can achieve a world in which both men and women are “whole people” and sons don't need wilderness weekends to open their hearts.